Soothing the Twins

October 28, 2017

When your bundle of joy cries uncontrollably in its initial weeks after birth, the experience will certainly be a stressful one, when you were all prepared to enjoy some good time with the new member of your family. The most stressing thing about the situation is that you clearly know that your baby is healthy but can’t understand why it is crying.


The probable cause of the discomfort that makes the baby cry is colic, a condition that starts around the sixth week after the birth of the baby. By the time the baby growths to the age of four months, the crying will subside to an hour or two in a day


The crying can be at any time of the day, but it persists in the evening going into the night. It can take a toll on you as a parent and will be rougher on first-time mothers who have little or no experience in handling babies.


Talk To Your Healthcare Provider

cute baby on bed

Before you conclude that the cause of crying is colic, it is prudent to first check with your doctor to confirm the real reason for the discomfort.When it has confirmed that your baby is healthy, use the following tips together with the suggestions that you will get from the doctor to manage colic and soothe the baby.


You can also do your own research on how to help a baby with colic as well as using any available resource that will assist you with effective techniques of relieving your baby from colic discomfort.


Soothing Noise And Gentle Massaging


While holding the baby, make some soothing noise that will mimic the sound that the baby was used to in the womb where such was the comforting factors at all times. Rain-like sound, for instance, will help the kid to lessen the attention to the colic discomfort.


Massaging the baby gently on its back will also make it focus its mind more on the enjoyment of the massage and forget the pain.


Positioning And Stillness

cute baby getting massage

At times, getting a perfect resting position for your baby will do the magic. Some babies will only want the stillness, quietness and at times darkness until they are free from the discomfort.


Identify the position that they respond to with a show of comfort when you are holding them. It can be placing them on your lap tummy-down, holding them upright or simply cradling it comfortably in your arms.


Check Your Diet If You Are Breastfeeding


What you eat may be the cause of the discomfort that your baby is having in form of colic. The effects of the foods you eat in terms of generating gas and being acidic among other effects will have a negative impact on your baby after you breastfeed it. Avoid dairy products, for example, caffeine, cabbages, garlic and broccoli to name just but a few.


If you are using baby formula to feed your baby, it then should be predigested to help with the quick digestion and absorption into the baby’s system. A soy-based or a hypoallergenic formula is also advised for the avoidance of colic after feeding the baby.


A Warm Bath

baby in the tub

Prepare a warm bath for the baby to soothe the discomfort. As the baby enjoys the washing, it will for the moment forget the discomfort. You can also place a warm washcloth on its tummy and it will have a soothing effect too.


Release Gas By Pedaling


Place the baby on its back on the bed so that you can have enough space to pedal its legs gently. The pedaling motion will help it release the gas that may be causing the colic discomfort.

In your effort to make your baby comfortable, do not be distracted by it is crying because you will not be able to do the soothing in the right manner. Calm yourself down so that you can concentrate on the right steps to pull the baby out of the discomfort.

How Will I Survive?

October 31, 2017

That is the question that Erin asked me when I went to visit her after a few months of not seeing her. Uhm… how do you answer a first-time mom experiencing her first terrible three?


If you thought “terrible twos” were a menace, then you should wait for the experience when your kid hits three years of age. That cute baby that everyone else wishes they could spend their time with can test your patience in different ways, and you can only endure it because it’s a natural stage that every child has to go through.

girl crying

The amazing thing is that the kid will always be okay with the things it’s doing, not understanding the agony it’s taking you through.“Terrible threes” will make your life unbearable at times, when you aren’t sure of how to react to the odd behavior. It will be tricky because you aren’t sure of how to respond to unexpected outbursts of range, the unending tantrums and back-talking.


Children will go through different phases before they are matured to differentiate right from wrong. You should, therefore, take it easy and learn how to handle the rebellious nature of your kid who is at the “terrible three” stage.


You should first understand that at that stage they want to show their independence after learning that they don’t have to be in diapers or alert you when they need to take a leak. You, however, should be alert and find positive means of taking control of the situation, to tame the child not to take advantage of the independence longer than expected.


Even though the kid is at that stage exploring new experiences, testing your reaction and discovering various things in life, you should take control and guide him or her not to stray too much and fail to identify the bad behavior. The following tips will guide you on how to deal positively with the situation.


Do Not Blank It Off, Deal With It Instantly


In order to get the right starting point, allow yourself to suffer through the tough experience in its initial stages. That will help you to come up with the right style of reprimanding the kid. Even though the behavior won’t last for long if handled properly, don’t allow the kid to have his or her way by throwing tantrums, talking back at you or outbursts. Counter the behavior with the right discipline so that he or she can understand that the habit isn’t welcome in your home.


Being tough politely is vital because it’s at this stage that you will be shaping the kid to handle other people with respect by avoiding indiscipline. Soon they will be heading to school, later to high school and eventually to their workplace where indiscipline won’t be tolerated.


Show Some Love As You Test Different Remedies

mother and son talking

Don’t alter your love for the child. It’s just a phase of his or her growth and they obviously will outgrow it, and eventually when all is over you will be left feeling like you have just had a long, hot shower. If at all you will be ready for the experience, apply the discipline firmly knowing that you are only helping the kid to be a well-behaved person later in his or her life.


Some methods of disciplining your kid will work better than others. You also will not want to spoil the special kind of friendship you have with the kid and the love you have for each other.


As you caution and guide them therefore, let them understand the advantage of being well-behaved. Be cool at all times when dealing with the naughty behavior of your kid. Act cool and be firm in handling the tough early days when your child is learning, because in the process he or she will take after you. Show them the importance of responding in the right way to frustrations, disappointments and other emotional situations.


Tell Your Friends Of Your Experience


Sometimes we fear sharing the experiences we have with our kids, and when they are at the “terrible three” phase you might fear tugging them along when going for your groceries or for some refreshments in the restaurant. Don’t hide the struggle because exposing it will help you to come up with working remedies that will help you shape your child to be a better adult later in life.